Meditating with Mala Beads

 

beaded mediation

Mala (Sanskrit for meditation garland) beads have been used as both a prayer and meditation tool for thousands of years.  Traditionally Mala beads consist on 108 wooden beads plus one guru bead that  signifies that you have come full circle, it is added in addition to the 108 beads and is often different in shape or colour and decorated with the knot of the necklace often ending in the shape of a lotus.

Mala beads are used for Japa meditation, that is a meditation practice that uses each bead to count the repetition of a mantra.  This practice involves:

  • taking hold of the beads in your hands in front of you beginning with the first bead to the right of the guru bead.
  • inhale, exhale repeating your mantra out loud or silently in your mind.
  • move to the next bead and repeat
  • when you reach the guru bead, pause and reflect on your practice, if you wish to continue trace the beads back the way you came, inhaling, exhaling and repeating your mantra at every bead.

Today in class we took our mantras from Louise Hays affirmation cards. We choose our cards by shuffling the deck, and cutting the pack in two, taking the card we are immediately directed to, no matter how challenging the advice may be.

My card for today is pictured above and reads:

As I forgive myself, it becomes easier to forgive others.

This resonated deeply with me today as we are going through some, let us say personality struggles with a particular person that is distantly related to our karate business. It is easy to take offense to the actions and words of another person, to let their actions well up on you.  But to what end? Buddha said:

Holding onto anger is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die

Diseases brought on by stress will manifest within us when we hold onto anger, hurt, and regret, what do we gain by holding onto this negativity?  When faced with an opponent you cannot win over, not because they are better than you, not because they are right and you are wrong (nothing is ever that black and white) but because they refuse to accept you, simple.  Another person within our association refuses to accept me, and because it literally bears no consequence on who I am and how I behave there is no point being upset or angry, or of choking on my own poison.  Instead I will practice forgiveness, whilst staying within the boundaries of my own security. More so I will forgive myself for all those things we deserve to be forgiven for, not working hard enough, loosing direction, self doubt, eating cake, not walking long enough, buying new books when I have a stack to read, not getting enough sleep and so on.

The primary word on the card is forgive, my mantra is “I Forgive”.  Take the beads in both hands, start with the bead left of the guru bead, hold the first bead between your thumb and forefinger  and inhale, as you exhale repeat your mantra, take hold of the next bead and repeat working your way around the mala until you return to the guru bead.  Take a few moments to reflect on your practice.  If it helps, wear your mala bracelet on your right hand to remind you throughout the day of your good intention.

Namaste`

 

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Emotional Buckets

the acquisition and distribution of emotional resources

Picture your emotional bucket, imagine it there in your left or right hand.  Now imagine that every time you encounter a person you give them something from your bucket.  You give them love, understanding, kindness, wisdom, time, advice, an ear, an emotional touch and so on..

Think of all the gifts you naturally give out into the world.  Every being has come to this earth to serve.  We all have a role, you intuitively know what your role is, and you will intuitively seek out opportunities to fulfill that role.  Our roles may manifest in a profession,  a lifestyle, a hobby  or a community that requires you to give care to others, to be a healer, to be a hero, to be a helper, to be an adviser, to be whatever it is you feel guided to do.

Are you tired, overwhelmed, frustrated or something else you just can’t put your finger on?  Close your eyes again and look inside your bucket? Does it make you feel warm and fuzzy?.  Is it full of gifts of love and kindness you have received from yourself and others?  Or does it make you feel queasy to see the dregs at that bottom resembling the discarded burnt oily castoffs that are cleared from the fryers in a fish and chip shop?

Refilling your bucket is easy, once you master one simple step.  Repeat after me “I deserve to be loved and treat with loving kindness, I choose Love”  I am not talking about greedily taking love from others or  depending on others for depositing loving kindness into your bucket I am talking about you being willing to treat yourself with loving kindness,  it is a universal law that Like attracts Like.  Practice your own loving kindness, and watch the ripple effect that you create across your relationships and across the universe.

All too often the idea of taking care of yourself first feels selfish and indulgent, we have to step, jump and fly over this hurdle.  Remind ourselves that the captain doesn’t say “in case of an emergency put everybody else’s mask on first then if you can manage it take care of yours!” NO he advises us to take care of ourselves first not to hand our husband his mask and fix our children’s masks on first. They will be okay, they got this.  It’s a plastic mask with an elastic strap, let them try at least before putting yourself last.

Loving kindness is a vague concept, so what does it mean? In this context it is simply doing some things for yourself that make you feel good.  Going to bed early, walking the dog, reading a book, taking yourself to a movie, journaling, pursuing that hobby you keep putting aside, finish the study you shelved, take a class, meditate, nourish yourself, take the trip you dreamed of, spend time by yourself, spend time in the company of those that naturally nourish you, be honest and truthful with who you are and what you want from YOUR life.

When you practice loving kindness towards yourself, your bucket will overflow, the universe will shift and finally you will  live the life the universe had intended.

That said, Yes there are times when the needs of our children and loved ones will overtake the needs of ours especially during times of infancy, frailty and ill health.  BUT I have to stress that you still need to take time to do something that nourishes you, that fills your bucket.

The second problem with our bucket that needs to be addressed aside from the lack of refueling  is the distribution of resources.  However this need to serve manifests itself in your life you need to ensure that you do not continually give until you are carrying an empty bucket.  It is never your role to give all that you have, to exhaust yourself emotionally, mentally and physically.

In our lives the first circle of hands in our bucket belong to our immediate family.  Our partners and children need our love, in any number of guises they need our energy,  attention, understanding, time and so on.  Behind our circle stand our extended family waiting to take what they need, then our friends, our work, our community, and our society.  Your list may vary to mine, the order and content may be different, I offer you this example from my own experiences, and with a question – where do the people that matter most in your life stand in your circle?

Think of the people in your life? I immediately think of those closest to me, my husband and my children.  These are the most important people in my life and the ones I give the most to, and yes often to my own detriment.  Like everyone I am a work in progress.

I realise that I am not always doing my best work,  when I am handing out the dregs to those closest to me. What they deserve is the gold,  the shiniest, brightest, jewels I have to offer.  If I had them they would be theirs, with a little reserved for a rainy day.  I am often tired and emotionally drained.  I know that this is the result of me not doing the things that I needed to do to load up my bucket.  It is my own fault and yes I fully take the blame.  My work is great, we run a Karate club which is fulfilling work and reminds me to connect with the world,  I love seeing my husband teach,  I loved training before the crash, and hope to again when the pain stops.  I love teaching Yoga.  Yoga nourishes my body and soul, reminds to connect with the universe, the time on my mat is sacred.  I slid off the writing gig with an painful thud so I am dusting myself off and getting back in there.    Writing nourishes me like nothing on earth, I believe it stops me going mad, bottle-necking my stress and becoming emotionally impotent.

What are your fillers?

What if you have a perfectly adequately filled bucket.   With just enough to get by on but you give it away to the outer circles in your life and those closest to you receive the dregs if anything.  It will often be those close to you that take up the responsibility of providing you with fillers for your bucket or with opportunities to fill your bucket, which you again give out to the wider circle and bring home empty.  It is not uncommon, and often goes unnoticed but it still needs to be addressed.  Fill your bucket with what nourishes you, and share your gifts with those closest to you first.  It will create a ripple effect across your circle, love gives love.

My bucket issue is that it feels temporarily empty and I know that recognizing that puts me firmly on my way to fixing it.

Sending Love.

It is taking a long time..

So last night someone comments that is “taking me a long time to get over the accident” Two months to the day.  I was taken back.  Yes is it taking me a long time.  I am not bouncing back.  I am, I hope taking all the necessary steps required for a full recovery.


My injuries are not catastrophic. I have only whiplash and a bruised sternum remaining now the bruises and grazes have healed. I have daily headaches, pins and needles,  sporadic neck and jaw pain and my chest feels like it has taken one of the best during kumite. Add to this I gained 11 kilos since the crash as  I fell off the No-Carb wagon with a thud and I am prone to feeling engulfed by feelings of feeling utterly let down, ungrateful, grateful, pissed off and okay. I try to stretch the moments I am okay.

I am back driving, the truck driver that hit and ran my car is still out there and weaving through insurance issues is painful, plus  I am two months behind on everything! I missed out on my two week at home yoga study retreat, I missed out on teaching this term, on training towards my second kyu grading, on losing more weight, late with taxes and quarterlies, managing the karate club, the carpentry business, my healing work and oh ‘have you written anything lately?’ Later.

A temporary hiccup, I have lost two months, big deal, I know!  But the reason it hurts so much is because of how hard I fought to get that life. I was finally beginning to find a balance.

Regaining that balance is harder than expected, doctor, psychologist and physio are working together to get me back in shape and I have waved goodbye to creamy afternoon teas and tim tams.

Three weeks from now I will be teaching my first yoga class since the accident.  I am excited and the process of getting prepared is itself healing.  It is a relief to be stepping back on my mat.

Namaste 🙏

Reiki Workshops on Demand

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I have found that the most comprehensive way to learn Reiki is in a style that is suited to you. If friends have chosen to join you then it is meant to be but perhaps you are meant to embark on this healing journey alone with the guidance of the universe.
Reiki 1 is $150 per person, including a certificate and manual.

What is Reiki?

I have been asked this question many times from both interested seekers and casual observers. Reiki is difficult to define as you will discover on your own Reiki journey. What it is to you and what it is to me may be two different things with the exception that we will both be aware of the fact that Reiki is a manifestation of love.


Reiki is Universal life force energy: What does it mean?
Is it a gift of energy from the universe? Perhaps. I do not discount the common rhetoric defining reiki this way I do however challenge its simplistic aloofness. When you give and receive a Reiki treatment with the true intent of healing the wounds of the soul and body you will feel love.
What is Reiki? It is love with the intention of healing.

Are You Taking Care of You?

Are you kind to you? It is easy to fall out of the habit of looking after ourselves. This may mean that we do not get enough sleep, exercise, food or worse we forget to take a time out. A time out to do what ever it is that makes up feel better, that makes us who we are.


Are you guilty of self-neglect? Sit with me for a while and think about the last time that you did something just for you. I am not talking about that new pair of shoes, I am talking about the last time your stopped your world and did something for you. It does not have to be extravagant perhaps:
10 minutes of meditation

10 minutes journaling

10 minutes sending a salute to the sun.

10 minutes to prepare a proper lunch.

Today, instead of grabbing a piece of bread with peanut butter smeared on it and calling it lunch I took the time to make an avocado, cream cheese salad sandwich and brewed a cup of earl tea to sip alongside. It occurred to me while making this that I cannot remember the last time I went to such trouble making my lunch. My daughter and husband both start their day with a breakfast I make and they eat while I make their lunches. I routinely breakfast with a piece of toast that I share with our dog after the school run and a walk. DSC_0303

Is it because I work mainly from home that I think that it is okay to grab something easy when I am hungry? My nutrition needs are as important as anyone elses in this household. Just because I work from a home office does not mean that I am less busy than any other worker today, and I have the washing to load and unload to and from toilet trips. I constantly counsel my clients to look after their own health first. I regularly express the bucket theory i.e you cannot give from an empty bucket.. yet here I am trying to do exactly that.

How do we change? Persistence. Think about the holes in your self-care program. Start with the basics:

Eating

Sleeping

Resting

Exercise

Mediation

Healthcare

Pick where you would most like to start and make it happen. Set yourself out a meal plan, set the timer on your phone to go off to remind you to go to bed earlier, find a class or exercise you would enjoy, meditate there are apps and classes that you can explore, book an appointment with a practitioner. Do not put off looking after yourself a moment longer.
Take Care of You
with Metta, Vanessa xx

Why I became a Reiki Healer


There are two answers to this question. The first one that I will share is the public version, this is what I told my friends and family. Reiki was another string to my treatment bow. I had heard and read a little bit about it. I had never had a Reiki treatment. Money was tight. I had just graduated with a Diploma of Massage followed closely by a Dip in AromDSC_0014atherapy. Any money I had went into advertising, buying products and finding clients to build my business. Reiki was to become one more service that I offered. With Reiki I could offer packages, I could advertise in another category of the alternative therapy pages and so on. I found a Reiki course offered on a local barter system that I was enrolled in, so my first Reiki attunement was a gift more ways than one.
Deep down all of us seekers and healers are looking for something that we feel is missing inside of ourselves. For some it is a hole, an emptiness. Others may feel a uselessness, and incompetent at helping, or maybe some are disconnected from something they don’t quite know. It is easy to get caught up in life, money and getting by. Where is a spiritual life? How do we heal ourselves? Know ourselves?

In the quiet of meditation, I know that I was drawn to the healing arts because life hurts, life wounds and life disenchants us. Disconnected from the church of my youth, family and often the everyday people around me I was sad, I was lost and frustratingly seeking something better. I wanted to be better. I wanted to be able to do something more with my everyday than what I was capable of.

Sure on the outside it was always about helping others. It was always about what I could do for you and yes I would appreciate it if you would pay me too. Incidentally my fees were always less than other practitioners charged and I always tried to give more. Not because I could afford to, not because my clients couldn’t afford to but because I did not think the work I did was good enough. (That’s another blog post I am sure- back to my original point)

Healers become healers for a reason. We can spend years finding out that reason. We can float in and out of our healing world and reality. I left for a while to get a ‘real’ job. The result? I am still looking for my answers, or my questions depending on which way you are looking at it.

The short answer is that I study the healing arts because I am human and because I am human I am broken. I am broken because I am often separated from my spirit self. Reiki, love and healing helps to put me back together again.

Soup & Rent Inspections

There are a lot of thing shifting in our household at the moment. Summer is leaving Perth, the night and morning air has a nip in it and the sun has turned into a glorious gift we lift our faces to on our morning walks around the dog park.
I am feeling very domestic this week. We have a rental inspection on Friday which means by my own standards the house has to be cleaned and presented to a show room level. I couldn’t cope with a negative report against our name.
So this week I have put aside my study, my work and my writing and my leisure to focus on domestic bliss. Sorting cupboards, clearing, cleansing, decluttering. The atomiser is on constantly wafting Young Livings Purification oil throughout our tiny house. I feel uplifted with every task complete because I shifted my attitude from resenting rental inspections to welcoming the opportunity to put domestic chores ahead of all other tasks.
My week is full with working six days a week, either the carpentry business, the karate club, my studies, writing or healing work fill my days. This week I put our home first. Cleaning house is something that has been tacked onto the end of my day, when good enough is all I have the energy for. This week I made it my priority and I am reaping the rewards.
Soup of the Day!

My tomatoe and veg soup is on the stove:
 Just chop up any vegetables you have- today I used: parsnips, leek, carrots, zucchini, celery – fry in a large pot with some olive oil adding dried herbs, salt and pepper to taste.

Add two cups of re-hydrated Italian bean and veg mix, 1 can chopped tomoates, 2 tbsp tomatoe paste, and a pint of stock.

Simmer until tender and delicious.

Enjoy!

Now the weather is cooler Don takes a flask of soup to work when there is a pot on the go. He is joining me on my diet (sorry healthy eating plan) I guesse the results speak for themselves. I will be back to my fighting weight in another six months, it should only take him three.
Enjoy the cooler days!

Time Management 

I do not have the gift. Time Management. What is it? How do you do it? Is it just a buzz word for success? I don’t know. I do know that I get to the end of every day and think where has the time gone, why do I constantly feel that I am not achieving anything?

In desperation I googled the question ‘What is time management’ and the top result is from wikipedia and says:

“Time management is the process of planning and exercising conscious control over the amount of time spent on specific activities – especially to increase effectiveness, efficiency or productivity”freestock_50605498

No my daughter has told me that you cannot trust Wikipedia, they are not allowed to use it as a reference at school and therefore I should just ignore everything it has to say. Well, often I would, but in this case I will accept their definition.

My days are filled with tasks for our Carpentry business, Karate school, Yoga Course, along with promoting, developing my healing work, writing, and the usual everyday living stuff we all need to do to survive. It is a hot mess to schedule.

I previously looked at the Pomodoro technique which advises you to break your work down into 25 minute sessions with a 15 minute break in between. When I gave this a go I had to admit that it works well with similar tasks such as writing and editing. It doesn’t help me on the days that entail driving in the car for a couple of hours delivering or collecting materials for one job or another. It definitely doesn’t help when I have a massage client, can you imagine twenty-five minutes into the treatment I take a 15 minute break? Anyway it does not work for me.

Breaking my day up into segments doesn’t help either, for example, just now I have been re-directed for the last hour dealing with issues from our carpentry business. It is hard to get back into the swing of writing this post and to get back to what it is I wanted to share..

I am as of today trialing Theme Days. This is how it goes, every day I will focus on one specific part of our business and development lives. For example, Monday is Yoga and Healing Study day, Tuesday is Karate, Wednesday is for Carpentry, Thursday is my creative writing day and Friday we are back to Karate as it is the day that I teach my ladies class in the morning and sometimes enjoy a long lunch. My weekends are undefined. Saturday we teach Karate and Sunday we are developing a lovely habit of heading to the beach with the Kayak!

Bearing in mind that amongst all this scheduling, I have clients and on 6 days of the week we run Karate classes. Then there is my daily practice that My Health Yoga course has encouraged me to commit too, at the moment my goal is several rounds of Sun Salutations and twenty minutes of Reiki practise each morning. Plus I hope to squeeze in a daily class from My Health Yoga TV every afternoon before my tribe get home and we head out to our night classes.
I have included a template of my timetable below feel free to download and schedule your week in and let me know how you get on. Life is about balance, in all aspects of our life. There are always things that we have to do, things that we want to do and things, beautiful things that we would be lost without.

Here is a link to my Weekly Time Table Template