As a mother and wife I need to balance my time between each individual child, my husband and our family group as a whole. As a friend (confidant/confessor) I need to balance my time between listening and talking, and finally as a writer I need to balance my time between the creative and the practical.
If one area falls out of balance all others are affected. If one child draws too much of my individual attention the other will feel isolated, if I talk too much and forget to listen my friends will feel unheard and if I do not nourish my relationship with my husband will he feel – left out? Unloved? Neglected?
If I spend too much time on the creative side of my work, who will keep the books? The tax man will soon come knocking at our door and I will have to sift through the pandoras box that will become our busniess records.
And of all these balls that I juggle. What about me? What will become of me if I fall out of balance? My health, my heart, my sense of purpose, my creativity and my relationships. I need all these aspects of my life to be in good working order or the scales will tip, the balls will come crashing down and I will land in a heap.
How is it done? How does everyone else hold it all together? Well, (me of little faith) I am not convinced that anyone truly does. I do not know anyone who does not have a messy house at some time, who grabs dinner on the run, who forgets milk, who neglects to call a dear friend, play with a child or make love to her husband. Show me the ‘perfect’ wife and mother and I will show you a liar.
If we all do our best and act with love, love of ourselves, our family and our friends, then we are achieving our purpose, we are making the best of our lives.
Namaste. I honour the place in your where the entire universe resides… a place of light, of love, of truth, of peace, of wisdom. I honour the place in you where when you are in that place and I am in that place there is only one of us.
– Mohandas K. Gandhi